With the INFP the feeling of 'drifting apart' is unavoidable from one point. Do you feel there's nothing more to gain from the relationship? INFPs can be rather complex and they are not exactly stagnant, either. You're the one who feels 'distanced'?

How do you communicate with the INFP? Don't you feel as if you're in a dance with ..your shadow?

I dated an INFP for 5 years. It was a great, functional relationship but didn't have any real "spark". Basically, it was like dating my best friend (who, incidently, is also an INFP). I didn't feel like the relationship was ever really going to "go" anywhere, so I ended it. We're still friends, though. When to end it? I dunno. I figured it was time to end it when I realized that I didn't really want our relationship to go any further.

I dunno...I can honestly say that I am not very attracted to someone physically if there isn't some sort of personality connection. I can say that some people are physically and visually attractive but I am much more drawn to someone's personality than anything else. For me, that has always seemed a little weird because I KNOW that people look good but I think attraction is a whole different thing for me. I can honestly say that the notion of physical attraction is very foreign to me and for the most part it's emotions and connecting mentally. I think you can always have the physical with anyone, in any which way, where ever, but attraction is just something completely different to me. I want to connect with someone I am attracted to.
As far as the INFP's I have known in my life I don't get that with them.
They seem for the most part very sweet.
I guess I could be surprised but I would think that I would probably either really anger, irritate or take things too far with one.
And I would probably think it was good for them and I don't think INFP's like to be pushed. They get really angry when they are pushed.
I think sometimes everyone needs a good shove.
So when I think about if someone is attractive, I think I want to connect with them, and if I want to do that, then I project possible future possibilities with them, so it's difficult for me to imagine just physical attraction to someone.
Is anyone else as convoluted as I am??
Ha!

Ed, I didn't number that so I hope I didn't loose you in the rambling paragraph :p, but I know you also always talk about pretty much not dating unless you can see yourself marrying that person.
Am I right?

Are you guys laughing at me, or just happy for me?

It doesn't matter either way I guess. INFJs always have too big of dreams.

Don't worry Shif, I will still post here if/when I find the woman I hope to have.

Wait, what am I saying, I am a bad ass, the correct way of rephrasing that last line is "when I find the woman I will have".

INxx, brown hair, nice eyes, and superior intelligence who is somewhat insane Rachel? Huh, sounds like me.