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I test as an INFJ but my F and T are very close and as I get older, it seems I first rely on my "T" before my "F", in analyzing situations and only after exhausting all rational thought do I take into consideration the feeling aspect of my interactions or situation. I know that at certain points through out life everyone develops their functions differently and I think at this stage I am definitely developing my "T" function more. It does however make me feel like I am losing myself a bit and becoming detached in a way and I feel as though I am becoming a little...."dead inside" so to speak.
Do any of you have any of these experiences or have a reference to type development?
Just getting a little worried that I am becoming a robot. Ha!
Do you think we adapt/adopt personality traits to deal with life situations?
When I am by myself I am overwhelmed with all of the emotions I do not allow myself during the day and rethink all of the interactions and situations I have dealt with during the day and I think about how yes, I did get things done which is the important part, but ...I wish I had listened more and communicated that despite the logical conclusion I did understand how the other person "felt".
Can our reactionary personality traits be very different from the core personality traits?
I can say that I am very much this way right now.
www.davidmarkley.com/persona...intj.htm
This part really resonates me with me.
"INTJs really want people to make sense. This sometimes results in a peculiar naivete', paralleling that of many Fs -- only instead of expecting inexhaustible affection and empathy from a romantic relationship, the INTJ will expect inexhaustible reasonability and directness."
I could not accept inexhaustible affection or empathy from someone who in my view point did not make sense, have inexhaustible reasonability and directness.
Throughout my my life experiences I have developed a tough outer surface and what I want more than anything from other people is honesty, above all else. I would rather have an honest relationship than an overly romantic one. In my experience the 2 never seem to coincide.
But...it still makes me a little sad that I think this way. Like mourning the death of an ideal.
Do any of you have any of these experiences or have a reference to type development?
Just getting a little worried that I am becoming a robot. Ha!
Do you think we adapt/adopt personality traits to deal with life situations?
When I am by myself I am overwhelmed with all of the emotions I do not allow myself during the day and rethink all of the interactions and situations I have dealt with during the day and I think about how yes, I did get things done which is the important part, but ...I wish I had listened more and communicated that despite the logical conclusion I did understand how the other person "felt".
Can our reactionary personality traits be very different from the core personality traits?
I can say that I am very much this way right now.
www.davidmarkley.com/persona...intj.htm
This part really resonates me with me.
"INTJs really want people to make sense. This sometimes results in a peculiar naivete', paralleling that of many Fs -- only instead of expecting inexhaustible affection and empathy from a romantic relationship, the INTJ will expect inexhaustible reasonability and directness."
I could not accept inexhaustible affection or empathy from someone who in my view point did not make sense, have inexhaustible reasonability and directness.
Throughout my my life experiences I have developed a tough outer surface and what I want more than anything from other people is honesty, above all else. I would rather have an honest relationship than an overly romantic one. In my experience the 2 never seem to coincide.
But...it still makes me a little sad that I think this way. Like mourning the death of an ideal.
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Re: interchangable parts
Fri, September 11, 2009 - 7:42 AMI just read some postings on INFJ sub-types. This is interesting.
-The Tertiary Variant: These INFJs have very obvious tertiary processes, in the case of INFJs this is Ti. The tertiary INFJ will break down ideas, concepts and arguments with precision. They are principled, rational and always questioning.
Just wanted to insert a song I like. I often associate my mood with music. Like a background track to my life. :)
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Re: interchangable parts
Fri, September 11, 2009 - 11:22 AMWhere did you find out about INFJ subtypes? I am like you I guess Shif. Over the years, I have developed my thinking function much more. I guess this is because often times FEELINGS GET IN THE WAY OF DOING THINGS RIGHT. We cannot be sympathetic all of the time, or else we will get stepped on.
I am probably a tertiary INFJ. I do break down ideas, concepts and arguments with precision. I do question a lot. I especially question social norms. Why is it "unacceptable" to put ones elbows on the table on a date? This does not make any sense, and can in fact ruin a date by putting a person in an uncomfortable position.
Why do we have to wear nice clothes to places all the time? It just makes people uncomfortable and makes my ass itch. I feel bad for women who feel like they "have to wear heels". Sure it is sexy to us guys, but it looks like it can hurt the woman's body.
Usually, it is SJ guardians who keep up these ridiculous social norms (not that SJs are bad people).
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