wow, that's amazin, Rory - cause I'm an ENFP and I was just going to say "I do the same thing!!" I try to make friendships last forever, but some have ended (badly) over the years... and I usually feel powerless to stop the process of falling out...

Also, I think that what kahleigh is dealing with as far as 2 personalities (one with parents, one with friends) sounds like an Idealist problem, not just an INFJ problem. Most of my NF friends and I all have an extremely hard time revealing our true ADULT selves to our parents. I think something in us just doesn't want to be that... I don't know... brazen?? We need to appease, we need to be peacemakers - so if keeping things at an even keel means filling the position we always filled, as the eager-to-please, mostly obedient child - then I guess we can handle it for a little while, while we're with them. ...But then, as soon as we're back with our friends, that which we have been holding back explodes all over the place and we probably make even dirtier jokes than usual, haha. Still, I'm not sure that life would be as fun if I didn't have different people who brought out and even expected a certain side of me - it keeps things from getting too boring.