It worked great for me. I hightly recommend the experience.

I will say that some sites are better than others. Some match people up based on superficial interests like "reads books" or "likes sports". However, I suspect that many (maybe even most) other INFJ's feel the same way that I do and find personality to be the most important fator in dating. In that case, I'd recommend a site that offers a personality test that matches people up based on personality traits.

I'm practically an eHarmony commercial. That was by far my best experience with the few that I tried. It's easy to use, introduces you to people gradually, provides very graceful ways to let people know if you are or aren't interested (honestly, you don't feel rejected at all if someone decides they aren't interested). Best of all, *every single person* I was matched with was someone I found interesting. Plus, because it does two-way matching, I was reasonably assured that I was the kind of person they were looking for, too. I met some really great people on there, but hit it off extremely well with one of them and closed all my other matches. None of the other gals were upset when that happened, and I remained friends with one of them for some time afterwards before we eventually drifted apart.

I do have a caveat: while there are a few important things I won't compromise about, there are a lot of things I'm very flexible about. Being too "picky" when answering questions about what you are looking for in your potential mate may limit you pool of available datees. I have known people who signed up and got zero matches. On the one hand, that's a bit frustrating and discouraging, but on the other hand I have to respect a site that is honest about it and doesn't just match you up with people anyway. However, most of these people were basically looking for Superman and no one could possibly meet their requirements, which were often contradictory. Also, some of them were less than honest with themselves when answering their own personality test questions.

Bottom line: be realistic about what you can and can't live with in a partner and be totally honest with yourself when taking the personality test.

My sister branched out and opened to new ideas of a relationship and she got a couple of not so good matches bu the third was a perfect match and they are happily going on their second year. Another friend had a few connections that worked out online but not at all in person. So, sounds to me that there are similar levels of challenges -vs -gifts in this type of dating as there are in the old fashion kind.

Thanks for the replies....hmmmm. well my intentions with online dating are to meet new people and put my self out there so that I may possibly feel more comfortable around men. Hopefully improve a little on my dating/social skills. I plan on moving out of this city that I am living in within a year so I m not neccessarily looking for a long term commitment but rather good company and new expereiences. However, I am a little hesitatnt I guess because after all I am an INFJ and Sometimes...most times...i get caught up in relationships ("in too deep too fast") when ever i try to date casually. Its weird because even though go into dating thinking "just fun" I find myself longing for a deeper connection. Sometimes I ll find it with wrong person and end up heartbroken. So yea...I m curious to see how my experiences turn out in on-line dating.