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I'm quite smitten with an ISTJ. We met and began talking every day for hours for almost two months. I am drawn to her introversion, her practicality, and her ability to live based on objective reality.
I never hear anything about INFJ and ISTJ. She doesn't have the feeling preference, so I don't always get the affirmation I need. However, my Judgment tells me that if she really does like me, I don't need to have my feelings pandered to.
Anyhow, I really want this to work out. I think the greatest saving grace of an INFJ might be marriage. We can live our lives but have the safety net of having someone there to keep us from becoming lost in our introversion and also to distract us from over-thinking etc.
My greatest enemy as an INFJ is loneliness.
I never hear anything about INFJ and ISTJ. She doesn't have the feeling preference, so I don't always get the affirmation I need. However, my Judgment tells me that if she really does like me, I don't need to have my feelings pandered to.
Anyhow, I really want this to work out. I think the greatest saving grace of an INFJ might be marriage. We can live our lives but have the safety net of having someone there to keep us from becoming lost in our introversion and also to distract us from over-thinking etc.
My greatest enemy as an INFJ is loneliness.
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Re: INFJ and ISTJ relationship
Fri, September 12, 2008 - 10:58 AMI wish you good luck! My relationship with an ISTJ didn't work out, but we had a good 2 years and are still friends. I ended it because I didn't truly feel "understood." He was so stable and honest though, and really willing to work on our relationship. ISTJs are good people -
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Re: INFJ and ISTJ relationship
Sat, September 20, 2008 - 2:02 PMfeeling men tend to do well with thinking women, Ive noticed. Thats what you might be liking right now. The novelty also, the practical cut through the bullshit attitude of ISTJ's. She may be appealing because she is clean, she smells good, has her life in order, can cook well, is good in bed, is modest and proper, conscience and critical. Weither or not it can work is up to you two, and how developed and balanced you are as people. ISTJ's are mostly concerned with security and not going bankrupt, they can tend to have a lot of anxiety and imagine worst case senirios, they can have trouble taking care of themselves financially and be weak when it comes to showing how they feel in an emotionally vulnerable way. They can prefer to get angery and scared about life and tend to make lots of generalizations to explain away their fears. They are decent people, but You may feel like your mom is yelling at you all the time. Depends after the honeymoon period wears off.
Of course this is a generalization too, and I could be wrong, nothing is this simple to analyze when it comes to people.
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Re: INFJ and ISTJ relationship
Wed, September 24, 2008 - 8:39 AM...just wanted to add as a comment to my earlier comment that we broke up, so apparently it didn't work for us. But we're still good friends. -
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Re: INFJ and ISTJ relationship
Wed, September 24, 2008 - 8:40 AMoh, I said that already...sorry for repeating.
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