Shifting4now,

If I was instigating in any way, I apologize. Right now, all I am trying to find out is what is sexy to an INFJ. I am an INFJ, no question. I have taken that test and others multiple times, read numerous descriptions online, had classes on Myers-Briggs, been told I am an INFJ, and read psychological types by C.G. Jung. I am thoroughly convinced that I am an INFJ.

I put Tom Cruise on their for three reasons:

1) It was a cool picture.
2) I like the movie Top Gun.
3) I do not have a personal picture as I am a cave man with technology.

I am 21 years old, and go to The Ohio State University and hot is the word that I hear and am exposed to when describing someone or something sexy about someone.

Some reasons why I don't appear like an INFJ:

I have been around so many different personalities, especially ESTPs, as I have participated in sports all my life and have wrestled. ESTPs are the most common personality types for athletes that I have been around and especially wrestlers.

I grew up with an ENFP brother, so from a young age, I was probably exposed and forced to be more extroverted than normal young INFJs.

I have learned to broaden my horizons and better myself and not be so one dimensional.

Defense as to why I am an INFJ:

I, believe it or not, love doing community service and feel passionate about helping those with less than me (the homeless)-hence the idealist NF temperament.

I love theoretical discussions (iNtiutive)

Though I was exposed to many extroverts as a child, I was still quite shy- (trait of an introvert).

I love working alone and do get drained around others (though not as much as I used to) (introverts technique-recharging when alone).

I am highly critical of myself and others-hence my criticism of your personality and my long ass response (judgemental).

INFJ

Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judgemental

Remember shif, think of personality traits as a continuum, not as a dichotemus scale. Some people are just more of something else. Our surroundings help to shape who we are.

I apologize once again.




The fact that I am talking about this stuff on the internet from my home by myself instead of out with other people

Oh I forgot to add that I'm also drawn to the open minded w/ ability to talk about quantum aspect of life - things beyond the boundaries...

Thanks Anon for the tangent. Actually I'm understanding so much about what it is to be an INFJ from the respectful and clear way you three communicate your thoughts and feelings here. I have known a few other INFJ's and they also have a slight different flavor due to the types of people they grew up around but the communication style is similar.

Seems when one is in a more insecure or more secure part of their life they might be drawn to slightly different types too (insecure teen, secure adult, secure teen, insecure adult...)

Ed you think perfectionism is hot? That's great...now I will be strutting around the house ;) (as I put things back in order - I do so love order). I wonder if it is that there is an attention to detail about the self but also a mystery of still waters running deep that draws a person to an INFJ male or female. Course sometimes deep dark waters can get a little murky and muddy, lol, guess we all know that from living with ourselves :D