Ok I was asked to be more blunt so:
Is Brutally Honest really honest? Or is it seeing a pattern and believing that we know what is best for another and reacting? If so that's great but again it is natural for INFJ's and empaths to see these patterns and even to get irritated because others don't see them and we have to wait until they say AHAH! and by then the sh** may have already had to hit the fan. We were seeing it lead up to that. Well good for us, so we can go through life arrogantly thinking, "What a bunch of idiots THEY are for not seeing the beginning of the cycle only reacting to the end." or we can say, "We are so wise and should lead others."

Well what if we are doing the same thing as the 'bunch of idiots'? What if the sh** hitting the fan was part of another more expanded pattern that we aren't seeing?

Hmm...."Well what to do?" my mind thinks. Maybe it is being attached to being more aware then others that is my hindrance, my arrogance. Brutally Honest sounds pretty harsh and seems to come naturally when I'm tired or overworked just like anger comes to others. Maybe it is not a sign of wisdom but instead just a intellectual form of anger a bit more classy then sarcasm. If so then it's a sell out for me to just give into it - no challenge at all. And I like an intellectual challenge.

If I could work harder on seeing the bigger pattern or at least being ok with there being a bigger pattern and that each person - no matter how they see things - has their own private bigger pattern going on then I don't need to jump in and fix anything or tell people they are going astray.

But what if I want to help others (thus helping relieve tension in myself) how do I do it and stay in integrity? Well there is Compassionate Honesty (says my mind). Yeah, it's harder then the knee jerk, Brutal Honesty but more tied to telling MY version of truth and less about telling THE truth. With compassionate honesty the bluntness can still be there but it is in a vehicle of compassion and respect which not only builds the other person but builds the self (win win). All this sound airy fairy to some but for me with my strict pragmatic way of seeing the world - does it take me in the direction I want to go and draw to me that which is wanted or does it take me in the opposite direction (bringing me more angry people, becoming cynical and narrowing my viewpoint).

I do know that being compassionately honest and blunt with my own thoughts, actions, reactions and movements brings me into my integrity and compassionate alignment faster then being brutally with myself, but that's just me (I got really tired of pain a long time ago).

Whatch y'all think?