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We spend most of our lives trying to put round pegs into square holes... trying to make that which doesn’t measure up, satiate our infinite desire for love. We get by on the right nows, the what ifs, the that’ll dos. If we are to find the right combination to the lock, whom do we give chances for turning the key?
To the broken, the bruised and the feint of heart: It's true that we are once bitten, twice shy, leveling our defenses up against foreseeable heartbreak. 'They' say it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. What is our love worth compared to the value of our hearts? What gives our hearts value and truly, what is love?
Blessed are those who mourn, for without mourning there is no caring. Our hearts are actually valued by our capacity to love. We mourn for them *because* we have loved... but we cannot cease to love. Only then do we become heartless.
To the broken, the bruised and the feint of heart: It's true that we are once bitten, twice shy, leveling our defenses up against foreseeable heartbreak. 'They' say it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. What is our love worth compared to the value of our hearts? What gives our hearts value and truly, what is love?
Blessed are those who mourn, for without mourning there is no caring. Our hearts are actually valued by our capacity to love. We mourn for them *because* we have loved... but we cannot cease to love. Only then do we become heartless.
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Re: Some musings: On love and longing
Fri, July 17, 2009 - 9:14 AMI, for worse, give all too many the chance to turn the key....and have slowly....very slowly, been stronger in seeing i have a faulty gate-keeper at my hearts entrance. I'm learning there is nothing useful, 'good', or even wise about wearing my heart on my sleeve for everyone to blow their nose in....It boils down to being more reasonable. -
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Re: Some musings: On love and longing
Sat, July 18, 2009 - 10:34 AMI used to write poem after poem about finding the key to unlock myself (as a teen). These days I've found, for me,the ultimate key holder, gate keeper is myself. The longer I looked for the key in others the more others knocked me back to myself (often painfully so). Unfortunately I spent years licking wounds and feeling that life/people were untrustworthy. The joke was on me, LOL. The bigger part of me was trying to teach myself, not to mistrust 'them' but instead, to find the key/wholeness/trust within myself. -
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Re: Some musings: On love and longing
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 6:16 AMThat's really beautiful how that unfolded, Michelle. I, too, am learning to trust my 'me-ness' in relationships. I am extremely quirky and unpredictable so I tend to baffle, or put off many, and it's usually from trying to avoid the intense pain i feel from others and past rejections.
It's all so convoluted for me. Mostly because I am very very much the type to put others on a pedastool. I love taking care of people in one on one relationships. -
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Re: Some musings: On love and longing
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 12:11 PM))))"I am extremely quirky and unpredictable so I tend to baffle, or put off many, and it's usually from trying to avoid the intense pain i feel from others and past rejections. "((((
It only feels quirky if someone doesn't resonate with it otherwise it is just your beautiful norm - good to find more people who do resonate with the interesting type of norm that is you.
Ya, us care-taking types, lol, we often need to remember to "do unto self what we would do unto others." Our poor little body/mind suite sometimes takes a beating while we are out there trying to find the answers and help the world. And that inner bit of us just patiently waits for us to look for the amazing, beautiful and powerful key in the best hiding place ever - insideourselves.
I now more clearly understand when people say we do not need to become enlightened...only realized. I think care taking, nurturing and inspiring are beautiful and help us to open our hearts - we just have to watch that they stay in a healthy balance .
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